When I saw this pretty tweed dress I thought to myself, “Can I still pull this off?”. I’m five months pregnant and the list of clothing that fits me keeps getting smaller and smaller. Right after I let my mind go there I decided to change my inner dialogue. Rather than put myself down before I even tried on the dress, I decided to embrace my growing bump and simply work with what I’ve got – which meant going up two sizes.
I say this because now more than ever it’s important for me – for everyone – to try to change the things we say to ourselves about ourselves. Our minds can be a dark place and the things we dare say to ourselves would never be how we would speak to others. Little snippy, rude comments we make under our breath about how “fat” or “ugly” we feel affect body confidence during pregnancy and otherwise, and linger long after they’re uttered.
What I’m Wearing
There’s a big juxtaposition of feeling pure gratitude for growing a baby and the feelings that come with seeing your body change drastically. On top of that is the overpowering pressure from society to love your bump and be in complete bliss over the journey and baby’s arrival. Trust me, I couldn’t be more excited for baby and the future but this new chapter of my life hasn’t come without the lack of struggles and emotions of acceptance over my new body and dressing the bump. I don’t feel 100% every day and I don’t feel like my bump looks the same every day either.
I’m human after all, and while I’m completely in the mindset that what I’m experiencing is a miracle, embracing these new curves, like embracing pregnancy, is a raw, new journey of self-love that I’ve never been on in my life. It’s literally going skin deep and finding comfort again. Which for me, has been ending trying to “fit” into my old, regular clothes and going up sizes, maybe even shopping maternity soon. It’s also been about finding new silhouettes that better suit my new figure and remembering that I’m growing a human. I’ve had to work on changing my mindset and putting all my emotions into enjoying and celebrating this time of my life.
Whether you’re pregnant or not, loving your body is knowing you’re going to have good days and you’re going to have bad ones too but as long as you’re nice to yourself and you stop comparing, much more goodness and fulfillment can come from this journey of self-love and body confidence.
If you’re expecting, how do you find body confidence during pregnancy and even if you’re not, what’s been your journey on acceptance and loving your body? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Happy Tuesday and thanks for sharing some of your time with me!