With an almost 8-week old at home, it’s fair to say I haven’t been practicing the art of doing nothing but in a way, it’s sure felt like it. The things that filled my days are a thing of the past for now and most all of my time is spent loving on and caring for our little girl. The change in lifestyle has been drastic, wonderful, crazy, scary, exhausting, and beautiful all at the same time.
I’m navigating life as a new mom and it’s my full-time job right now. My days are reactive and while they’re filled with the same tasks (feed baby, burp baby, change baby, soothe baby, bathe baby, play with baby, put baby to sleep), they hardly ever go according to my schedule – my imaginary schedule. It’s definitely a period of transition and just like baby girl is learning to navigate life in this crazy new world, this world feels crazy new to me too.
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The art of doing nothing is different for me these days. It’s not really about lounging or enjoying my favorite matcha latte on a random Wednesday afternoon – it’s about not feeling uncomfortable for hitting pause on certain areas of my life and slowling down on the things I was doing before. I’m someone who doesn’t do well sitting still but my daughter has taught me (and yes, forced me at times) to take some time and embrace this season of life without feeling like if I do, I’m losing myself. I know in my heart the time will come when I’ll finally be able to take a deep breath (and sleep for more than 3 hours at a time) and life will get back to “normal” or a new normal where being a mom, wife, friend, daughter, sister, writer, blogger, even dog mom, all co-exist in a way that feels right to me. It’s crazy how immediately you know that while you can “take a break” from being all those things, the one thing you can never hit “pause” on is being a mother because you’re never not be thinking about your baby and thier well-being.
Back in January I wrote a post about my power word for the year. Spoiler alert: my word is peace. If you have the time go back and read it because it might spark a little of that motivation we all have at the beginning of the year – it did for me! When I re-read it, it brought back my focus to the intentions I had for my family and myself this year. In the post I talk about peace of mind, personal peace, and positive peaceful energy around my baby – and OMG did I need to remind myself of that. Being a new mom can sometimes feel like groundhog day and the outside world may even disappear for a bit which is why it’s important to check in with yourself. Just that self-awareness brought back clarity and re-assured me that while I don’t have a tangible way to measure how I’m spending my days, I shouldn’t feel like I’m doing nothing if I have peace and we’re all happy. My number one priority is making sure my baby is growing, thriving, and feeling loved, but it should also be as equally as important for my well-being to do the same for myself – and my husband. All this is challenging but not impossible.
For all new mothers who are embracing their new-mom normal of doing “nothing”, remember that you can’t be everything to everyone at the same time. You might be able to keep it up for a couple of days – maybe even a month – but eventually you will crash and feel the burnout. You’ll take it out on the first person you see in the morning (which will be your helpless baby or equally-as-exhausted spouse) and it’ll be a fatigue and desperation-induced release of emotion – trust me, I speak from experience. I’m a new momma with a lot to still learn but on the really hard days, I like to remind myself that it’s not about baby girl giving us a hard time, it’s about baby girl having a hard time and trying to let us know. It might look to the outside world like I’m embracing the art of doing nothing (and it even feels like that to me when my typical tasks aren’t getting done and I look like a hot mess) but I’m actually doing the hardest and most important job I’ve ever done.
If you’re new and want to read more on my journey into motherhood, you can share in our excitement when we found out we were expecting, my first and second trimester and even our gender reveal!
Thanks so much for reading and sharing a bit of your day with me! If my post brought up any feelings or thoughts, I would love to read them in the comments below. Until my next post!