Just yesterday I came across a quote from Emmy Rossum that stopped me dead on my tracks. I didn’t know then, but she was participating in the i_weigh movement started by Jameela Jamil “for us to feel valuable and see how amazing we are, and look beyond the flesh on our bones.” The entire point is to stop equating our self worth to a number on the scale.
Rossum’s message went like this:
“During my life the scale has told me that I’ve gained and lost and gained and lost. Somewhere in the range of 20 pounds. But that piece of metal doesn’t really know. Here is what I ACTUALLY WEIGH.”
I’ll be totally honest and say I’ve never been a slave to the scale. I actually hate weighing myself and never do because my weight fluctuates a ton. I’m not huge on diets and I hate depriving myself of food I want to eat. I just try to eat “junk” food in moderation and believe exercise should be tailored to your specific needs and health goals.
But I’m human. And a woman, so body issues have certainly popped up throughout my 30 years of life.
I remember the first time I actually became aware of my body and felt a little embarrassed by it. I was around 13-years-old and a male teacher pulled me out of the classroom to tell me that my top was distracting. My elementary school had us wear uniforms so I was a little confused by his comment because I was wearing what everyone else was wearing.
I realized later that he was referring to my chest. The conversation left me feeling like I’d done something wrong for having boobs and that any indication of them being “there” was completely unacceptable.
From that first instance of feeling ashamed of my body to later having certain people in my life be quick to tell me when I’m too skinny or when I’ve gained a few, I’ve felt the tug-of-war that comes with being a woman and subconsciously wanting to meet other people’s expectations of what you should look like.
That’s why I love the i_weigh message and think it’s something worth discussing. I didn’t grow up with Instagram or Facebook (thank God!) but I can only imagine how much that would have also impacted my body image ideals. Even now as a blogger I can’t help but compare myself sometimes to others in this field and not feel good enough.
My purpose with this blog has never been to tell you what you can and cannot wear or that aging is the worst thing in the world. It’s been to inspire you to lead a life you love and feel happy to wake up for.
The outside may catch people’s attention but it’s what’s inside that makes people stay. We’re worth so much more than any number (on the scale or on the tag of our jeans) and NOBODY should make you feel otherwise.
So you REALLY want to know how much I actually weigh? Here ya go..
I’ll be damned if I didn’t admit looking at the above picture didn’t make me tear up. We’re so quick to downplay our accomplishments and skim over our challenges that our focus and self-worth goes heavily to the superficial.
I invite you to post how much YOU “weigh” and share the beautiful things that make up who we are. Maybe even go a little further by printing it and hanging it somewhere you can see it for a constant reminder.
Thank you so much for sharing some of your time with me today! Hope to see you back for my next post!