Instagram vs. Real Life

There’s been a huge wave of Instagram vs. real life on social media happening lately.

It’s in memes, Instagram Stories/Snapchat confessions and blog posts like this one.

It seems that somewhere along the scrolls we got tired of extremely curated content and realized Instagram is just a highlight reel. As a blogger, I even noticed a quick snap from my iPhone receives higher engagement than something posed or filtered.

It’s actually refreshing. Not every day is a fabulous trip to Europe or a scenic, walk with your loved one. Those are just the moments we choose to share. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Instagram vs. real life is our friendly reminder not to fall for unrealistic expectations we get when we peek into the social media lives of the people we follow. It’s kinda like watching a chick flick and thinking Ryan Gosling is gonna write you every day for a year. #TheNotebook #YoureNotEvaMendes

instagram vs real life and what's going on in social media today
instagram vs real life and what's going on in social media right now

 I personally love curating content because it’s a creative outlet and it fuels my imagination. It’s fun for me to dream up these ideas then see them come to life. I started this little space of mine for that reason, and the hopes of finding a strong, fun community of fab women.

But there’s something to be said about liberating yourself from wanting to look “perfect” in every shot and just going with the flow. Maybe this totally dates me but I remember the time when you had to go to Walgreens – or wherever – to get your pictures developed! You only got that one shot and however it came out was the memory you had forever.

Now seeing more people point out that Instagram isn’t their “real life” and their “perfect” feed doesn’t equal a perfect life could be a new wave of social media – a more “this is who I am, take it or leave it” approach.

What do you guys think?

I love pretty pictures. And I love when people are honest so I embrace both. I believe if creating beautiful, curated content is authentic to your self then continue doing it! I also believe that if sharing behind-the-scenes, true “I woke up like this” selfies, and talking about honest, raw things is authentic to your self then continue doing that!

instagram vs real life and how to not get sucked into the comparison game

instagram vs real life and how to not get sucked into the comparison game
instagram vs real life and how to not get sucked into the comparison game

 The problem, at least for me, doesn’t lie with the person I’m following – it’s all in my perspective. If I’m letting the comparison game get to me then I need to re-evaluate myself. To live my life in the best way I can is the goal and I shouldn’t focus on what others are doing.

I always say it’s nice to notice and appreciate what so-and-so posts then go back to your lane and hone in on your work.

I like a pretty Instagram feed. So I’m going to continue doing me. But I also want everyone to know that life is not always peachy keen and to remember that the next time you feel a certain way after scrolling through social media.

Instagram vs real life and what's going on in social media today

 What are your thoughts on Instagram vs. Real Life? Does it even bother you or are you totally fine with the whole concept?

I’d love to hear your thoughts below!

Happy Monday loves!

  • Alyssa Walls

    I love this! I have been struggling with this very thing. I am a perfectionist and love my feed looking pretty, but at the same time I want my followers to be able to relate. It’s such a hard balance!

    Alyssa ||

    • I agree. It’s a game of balance. I’ve found that captions are SO important! And it’s what can differ one blogger from another. I keep it pretty honest in my captions and it’s helped relate with readers a lot more.

      • Alyssa Walls

        That’s great to know! Definitely encouraging

  • Thats so interesting a quick snap n your phone gets more engagement. It is so easy to obsess and perfect or feed

    • Oh ya engagement spikes. It’s crazy. Sometimes I wonder what the heck I’m doing spending so much time obsessing over every detail lol.. but in all honesty it’s about balance and honesty I think. Of course good content goes without say.

  • When it comes to instagram, I like having my feed curated & perfect. But when it comes to my snap or insta stories, then I don’t really care if it’s perfect since snaps are supposed to be in the moment. So I guess I’m a balance of the two, haha.


    • I see that with a lot of bloggers. That’s why Insta-Stories and Snapchat are so popular! It’s quick, easy, and nothing lives forever like on feeds. I’m been trying to use Insta-Stories more but I get so tongue-tied lol guess that’s why I’ve always been more of a writer!

      Thanks for stopping by Linda!

  • Brigita Potocki

    I’m not sure what to think, honestly … I love posting beautiful pictures and I also love seeing beautiful pictures. Usually, if I don’t like the pic I won’t give it a heart – is that bad? I hope not. I would never post a picture that is not perfect. I’m guilty, I admit.
    Great post, btw 🙂


    • No not all. I think as long as you’re living your authentic self that’s all that matters. It’s more about feeling the pangs of comparison over Instagram. We have to remember it’s just a highlight reel 😉

      • Brigita Potocki

        I agree … And I have to admit that when I take time off Instagram and Facebook I’m more at peace. I’m sure everybody feels like that. Have a great day!

  • I love your pictures! I try to do a mixture of pictures but I still want them to look nice.

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

    • Same girl! Thanks for reading Jennifer!

  • Seriously loving your flat lays! what you said here is really true nowadays especially with social media.

    Courtney Bentley ||

    • Thanks Courtney! Appreciate it!

  • Fash-n-Curious

    I like a pretty feed too….though my feed is definitely not perfect. Perfection is relative though isnt it?

  • Samantha Brooke

    Comparison is most definitely the thief of joy & sometimes it is easy to get caught up in that with social media. Your pictures are beautiful though, I love a curated feed, even if I know it isn’t real life <3


    • Aw thanks love! Yes, the trick is not getting caught up!

  • I personally like to have my feed looking curated, because I love photography and creating beautiful images. But when it comes to the people I follow I like both curated accounts and I like to follow more candid accounts. It all depends on the person and the reason why I am following them xo, Emily

    • Such a good point! If you’re following for a particular reason i.e. pretty pics or candid moments, then you take the account for what it’s worth. Thanks for your insight!

  • Kristin Kruse

    Yes girl, you’re spot on. I love creating content too and as long as it’s consistent with real life, it’s totally cool. It’s when you’re trying to sell something that isn’t that things get skewed. Your feed is indeed beautiful 🙂


    • Thanks Kristin! Totally agree!

  • I loved this post! It’s interesting, as I’ve found as curated as instagram is, it’s also very consistent with my real life! If you have a personal brand like many of us bloggers do, it can’t help but blur the lines! xx Shannon ||

  • Jannine Pampu

    I’m fine with the whole concept, but I also realize that it’s curated perfected theme. That being said I love Instagram Stories because it’s such a great way to see the raw personality behind the account.

    xo Jannine |