Today I wanted to chat about something I struggle with so much. I’ve mentioned it before but if you’re new to these parts, hi I’m Ilse, and I tend to overanalyze and create perfect scenarios in my head. If the moment doesn’t go as planned, I get pretty upset. Not visibly but internally. And it doesn’t have to necessarily be directed at a person, it can just be an overwhelming feeling I get. What I’ve done is given up my happiness over little things I can’t control.
It’s not a fun way to live life and it can completely make you miss out on great experiences.
So for awhile now I’ve been trying to trade expectations for appreciation.
What does that mean?
This concept isn’t new and I definitely didn’t make it up (we can thank Tony Robbins for that) but it means I’m trying to be more present in the moment and appreciate what and who I have around me. There is no point in feeling anger or frustration over situations and outcomes I can’t control. And it certainly doesn’t help to dwell in disappointments.
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I am appreciating life. The people around me, the moment I am in. I’m constantly focusing on what I actually do have control over and what I can do to make my life better.
Because really what is disappointment? It’s falling short of an expectation right? In whatever capacity that may be. So if you trade your expectations for appreciation life instantly changes and the way you perceive and react to all the “bad” things happening to you, changes too.
Tony Robbins calls it living in a beautiful state.
Bonus! You also become more attractive. Seriously!
I talk so often about the beauty products you should buy or the clothes you need to look fab, but what makes someone beautiful is the way they make others feel.
Think about your favorite person. Do you have someone in mind? Ok, how do you feel around them?
Aside from my husband, my mom is one of my favorite people to be around because I can say anything, wear anything, be anyone and she will not judge me. She makes me feel loved and not to mention we laugh, a lot! She makes me appreciate life and that makes her the most beautiful person in the world to me.
So you see it all comes full circle.
Trade unrealistic expectations for appreciation and you’ll be one step closer to a happier, more fulfilled life.
Let me know below if you practice this state of mind and if it has changed the way you live your life?! I’d love to hear your stories!
Happy Monday Motivation loves!